Love Isnt a Magical MysteriousThing .I Agree!!!

Ok here comes a small article I took from the Blog I read regularly.Written by Marcel Berridge (http://myleftwinggirlfriend.blogspot.com) a Canadian.Am posting this one in my blog because what he had said seemed to possess so much of meaning .A true Fact!

This one he wrote when he had been away from his wife for work reasons and had to visit a place called "HEDO" some where near Jamaica.He works for the Military base in Canada.
Here it goes!
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I love my wife.
I love her a lot. More than I thought I did. Why do I say this? Before I tell you, I bit of background.I am the kind of person who tends to question everything. This includes the love in our relationship. Some might say this is a bad thing, but before you judge, listen to my reasons. First of all, I don’t believe love is some magical, mysterious thing that just happens. There is an element of that to it, but it is also needs work and attention. Why do people who love each other get divorced. And mark my words, 99.9% of those who get married never believe they will divorce. Yet 40+% of all marriages in North America end in divorce. I love my wife but I do not think we are so special as to be immune from the chance for divorce. By recognizing a problem you are half way towards solving it.

I believe that many of the people who get divorced sabotage their own relationships. For whatever reason, they decide that they no longer want to spend their life with that person, and work towards destroying the relationship. They not longer tell their wife they love her, they forget special days, they fail to do special things for each other, you get the picture. Doubt my theory? Just think about anyone you ever dated where it did not work out. The vast majority of us dislike confrontation and we fail to come out directly to the person we are seeing and say “I don’t like you, it’s over, don’t talk to me ever again.” Most dating relationship end when you stop calling her, or are always busy with the guys, or start dating her friend. Am I right? Perhaps there are people who tell those they are dating straight out its over, but most of us are cowards.

Anyway, the point is people sabotage their own relationships. There has to be a tipping point between love to and ending a relationship. My guess is that it happens when a couple fails to reinforce their feelings for each other. You might know your wife loves you, but it still makes you feel better when she tells you so. The little things are important. So my theory is that, as an example, people get busy with work, looking after the kids, etc and they fail to reinforce their love by doing those little things. At some point, one partner (or both) find they are not getting what they need for the relationship, so they go somewhere else. Infidelity, the end of trust and love equals the end of the marriage. Some people try to recapture that love and are successful.

From my perspective, I got married for life, for better or for worse, so the way I see it, I am stuck with my wife. If I make her life happy, she will make mine happy. And vice versa.
Anyway, this is certainly the long way round to get to my point. I was concerned about going to Hedo because of what it might do to our relationship. I am a very loyal partner and I have never cheated on anyone. However, I recognise that I have never really been tested. Part of that is do to the fact that I tend to avoid temptation, and Hedo has a reputation of willing partners, and, considering I have been away from the wife for a month (and I am feeling the effects), I was concerned the temptation might be too much. It was a little bit sad. Here I was at one of the wildest clubs in Jamaica, (definitely the wildest I have been to), with attractive, topless or nude women all around and all I could think about was how I missed my wife and wished she was with me. When I guy sees a beautiful women, he is not supposed to think about his wife. We have been programmed by biology to spread our seed. When I see a naked woman, all I am supposed to think about is impregnating her. Instead I am thinking about how I miss my wife.
I hope this just has something to do with the fact we are still in the honeymoon phase of our marriage. If not, I may not be able to look at another woman for the rest of my life.

The triumph of reason over biology.
I’m scared.

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Why r these reservations in my mind?

I had been reading lot of blogs regularly ,which means that am doing less work.Which is true in fact .Oh I dont wana whine anyways!
One thing I have noticed is people abroad find it easy or they are at ease on what ever they write . But I dont feel so . A cap clouds my brain what should I write ?how should I write ?right worng ?should I put this one etc etc....ooofffo so many reservations for my self.Planning to get out of that and start writing regularly.

Exhausted of doing Nothing!

Its been quite a long time , Life had been litlle tough ,is it so ? I dont know!Things hadnt been going well professionaly.
Am just not being happy with work ,being in the Bench category ,sometimes pulls my nerves to the limit!It sucks yaar coming to office ,and being idle is horrible.And living alone in a aprtment is ooofffo over all am so much pissed off with everything around !Would like to just break out .
Over all am Exhausted,waiting for things to fall in place. How long ?Endless waiting .Same answers from the higher officials Wait for some more time a week ,a month but at the end of a month or a week then comes again the same Gyan!am tired of listning to it.
Being blank without knowing what to do Next???????

A late self Intro about myself

Again ,Its been a while I wrote some thing ..Thought I will give an introduction about myself..Infact I havent introduced myself yet...
Am Preethi an engineering grad....yes ur right ! another SW Engineer......so called !!!
Working in Chennai..I love reading,cooking,watching movie English esp...not horror ,being with friends,playing cards,chatting with them.,roaming in the streets of bangalore (a colourful city!!),..and the list goes onnnn..
And Am recently into Yoga practice !! you would have known that from my previous blogs, a good experince though.
Here my introduction stops.Enough I think .

Is It an"" Intrusion of Privacy""!!

I had been chatting with a friend of mine and was telling that I have started blogging and I like to read blogs .The response I got was ohhh I hate it ,May be its beacuse the first blog she happened to read ,was people discussing about "How Bad Indians are " ,so on and so forth.
The other reason from my friend was its like reading others personal diary..
Should I agree or disagree was my internal debate!!!
We constrain oursleves from so many things when we encounter a bad experience in the first attempt , So I have a litlle thought "Reading Blogs" is it an intrusion.I know If it had been personal people wouldnt publish it for everyones availability.
But then people do think so that way , Huh!

""My After Thoughts""

I happened to read my blog again and again and I found out so many mistakes "gramatically",I was so much into just putting out my thoughts but never bothered about the errors in it.
Few reviews I had to share reg my experience with Isha yoga classes,before joining I have heard plenty of comments from n number of people 99% of it were ,the classes are exellent.
But when ever we do some thing for the first time ,we should go to that place with an open mind and without assuming "this is how it going to be ".
As sometimes it might be disappointing.Frankly I was litlle disappointed after the first day class.Beacuse of my pre assumed ideas about the class.
But later on I was able to come out of my shell and was able to learn with an open mind is a different story.
when I start writing and when Iam aware of the fact that it is for public viewing I tend to put in a good impression ie a normal tendency but I would nt want this blog to be on those lines.It will not be .

""Enthralling Experience""

Its been a long time ,I created this blog but I didnt write much after that .I have decided to write regularly ,so thought why not start with my enthralling experince.
Ok Here comes my experience with Isha yoga.I had been hearing about this for quite a long time.Can say frm my 11thstd onwards but never made an oppurtunity to attend it .But then as result of my inner search ,a longing for a long time ,I got this Isha Yoga's beginners class gifted to me from my brother Gokul.
So July 16 gave me a kick start with Isha.It sounds better if i say I became a part of Isha 's family .And am glad for it.
When we go to people and say i have started learning Yoga and attending Isha classes the advise they will offer immediately is "make sure you dont get too involved in it".Dare not disgagree with them ! I say ok dont worry.Might not be the entire crowd has this opinion but atleast half of the crowd.
But how can people (even some times I do) come to an idea or a conclusion on situtaions or ideas of which they havent even experienced or come across.We just do it with what others say!anyways ,Opinions differ and each of us are unique in a different way.
The class started on July 16.I was in the morning batch 6 am to 9 am.
They conduct the sessions in a Unique way !
>The flow of the class schedules .
>Devotedness nature of the Volunteers. (The amount of effort the volunteers put in is amazing)
>The dynamism of the place where the class was held.
>The teachers were eloquent in what they spoke or taught us.
>The way the whole program was organised.
Isha is doing a marvelous job!
My class got over on 29th July.When i went for the valediction program ,I went there with a mixture of feelings.what say about it! Just cant put it in words.
I would surely want to talk about a person i met there,wouldnt want to mention his name.He is from an art industry and possessed the skill of expressing his ideas in a more profound way!!!!
He also had a longing, deep with in, to experience some thing beyond what every one does in this bounded world.
His valediction speech was "Ausgezeichnet"(excellent).He concluded his speech with a "Bharathiyar song" "Ittanai kodi inbam vaitai iraiva iraiva " which was peerless and that song touched me deep with in . As Im also an avid listener to the Maestro's songs.
That moment experince was impeccable.I could not help tears rolling down from my eyes.
On the way back home I thought may be the classes have ended but my journey towards a completely different path has begun!!!!....
Thanks to Isha and all who helped me to start this .If im going to ask my close friends or family members to read this or if they read this they sure will laugh at me or going to give me Skeptical look.!!Im looking forward to hear to what they all have to say!
Once I start writing I find it so difficult to stop it as thoughts keep pouring from with in and I would really dnt want to stop it.But gota go now.Hopefully you will see me blogging regularly!!!
Lets see...........!

Thedal

Where shall I start What shall I is my confusion .....
OK here it goes ..
After i created the blog I sent it to my friend who had inspired me to create one..
He asked me "So you are still searching!"..
I said yes " '"naan irukum varayil ,!Irakum varayil thedal thodarum endru""

Hip Hip Hurray

Franklly Im not ashamed of telling others that I got to know about the website only today through a friend of mine.I am glad that i learnt soemthing new !He is doing a good job.I kind of write a little ,nothing great ..thought why cant i use this ..
Its Fun !!!!
So much to be expressed ...so much to share ..let me see how bad I am when it comes to writing !!!!!!!!
So here Iam ....starting today ...............
Lets seee!!!!!
Hip Hip Hurray!!!

Appreciation

Created an account only now inspired by seeing a friend of mine..
It was great reading his Story..
Hats off!!